Imagine you are watching a movie, completely relaxed. And in that movie, characters jump with happiness in one scene, and there is bloodshed in the other. To what extent do we let this affect our so called "real" lives? At most our eyes become moist, but we immediately console ourselves "It's after all a movie! Cheer up!" and once we are out of the movie hall, we forget about those characters, isn't it?Now, why is it that we treat our lives any differently? Why is there so much seriousness in whatever we do? Why is it that we are a bunch of emotions and mood swings? We literally have become slaves to those emotions. They rule our day. They decide whether we have had a good day or a bad one. If we got a shouting from our boss at office, or a quarrel with our spouse or parents, then depression or anger takes over. If we get a promotion or some pay hike at office or a surprise gift from our spouse or parents, excitement and happiness rule. These emotions decide how our day goes, we have given them 100% power to rule our lives. Why have we done this to ourselves?
Now you may say, it is not that we are slaves to those emotions, but slaves to the incidents. It's not very different. We are slaves anyway. So how do we take charge of our lives? Just become a witness. The moment any emotion rises within you, just watch it. Imagine you are playing a role in this movie called "life" and you are the spectator as well. Just sit back and enjoy the movie!
Trust me, when we develop this witnessing attitude, we simply rise above the events and emotions of the day. We remain completely calm, relaxed and learn to smile at everything and take everything in the stride. Next logical question: how do we develop this witnessing attitude?
Ok, here are some practical tips that Swami Nithyananda gives. These can be practiced when you sitting in the bus, traveling to office or when you are waiting for a friend - any spare time that you have. We just have to start experimenting, it's like playing a game with ourselves. So here goes:
1. Witness your breath: Buddhists call it Vipassana, a very powerful yet simple technique. Just bring your awareness completely on the breath. As you inhale, watch the air going in, watch the tummy getting inflated like a balloon with the air coming in. As you exhale, feel the warmth of the air on the lips. As you breathe, watch what happens inside.
2. Witness your boundary: Normally, if we are sitting in office, our mind is at home and vice versa - completely disintegrated. Just become aware of where you are, the physical surroundings, you will fall in tune with the present moment!
3. Witness your thoughts and emotions: I will write more about these inner thoughts (called "inner chatter") in another post. To put it simply, when thoughts arise, just watch them like watching clouds in the sky.
Practice these techniques and let us know how you feel!
Here is a youtube video where Swamiji talks about how witnessing erases the boundary that we have created with the world and makes us realise our true consciousness. Enjoy!
Nithyanadam!
Ma Nithyananda Arpana








